I Took A Pole Fitness Class… And Now I’m Obsessed

Pole dancing… It has always held a certain (false) stigma. But now, pole fitness classes are popping up all over the world. So naturally, my curiosity peaked. I had to investigate for myself.

Let me preface this by saying that this class is not about stripping. It is about exercise, dancing and building confidence. My friend has been taking weekly pole fitness classes for the last couple of years. She always talks about how it is such an amazing workout and how much it builds up her confidence. Curious, I decided to sign up for the beginners series. This was a 6 week series that meets once/week for about an hour and a half. I was nervous, excited, timid, terrified… every emotion was flooding through me! It felt like the first day of school, when you don’t really know what to expect or who you’ll see. Thankfully I had a couple friends sign up with me so at least we were in it together.

We arrive at class, and it’s what you expect. A room filled with poles. There are only a total of 7 girls in the class, so that makes it less nerve wracking. Our instructor is bubbly and energetic. She briefs us on what our goals are for this class. It is not just about exercise here, it is about love and confidence. Each week we start with a different mantra. Self love, love for others, playfulness, self confidence… so. much. positivity.

Our first 30 minutes are a “dark warm-up” which is basically intense stretching and core work. Wow my abs were killing me! At the end of the 30 minutes, I felt ready for whatever the class brought on. She began to teach us “sexy” moves. Walking, frisking, standing up from the floor. Things that feel so awkward — but wow was it fun, and I could feel the confidence pouring out. Next, she teaches us a spin …. YEP, ON THE FIRST DAY. Now, do you remember when you’re a kid and you slide down the pole on the playground? Yeah, it’s nothing like that. It is HARD. I always thought I had decent upper body strength until I was told to pull myself up on a pole and then to spin around it. My respect level for women who do this went through the roof in this harsh reality.

We are currently into our 4th week and I’ve been able to KIND OF do some of the spins. Weekly, my entire body is sore in the best way. I’m working muscles I have never worked before. What’s even better, I’m more motivated than ever to workout so I can get stronger for this class. I’m determined to perfect these spins and eventually flip myself into the air like my beautiful friend is doing here. Look at how amazing that is!

All in all, this class has been everything it promised. I can feel my confidence rising, I’m feeling stronger, sexier and most importantly, I’m having fun. I look forward to this class every week, even when I’m tired. We’ve even signed up for another 6 weeks! So my advice? Take a pole fitness class. It brings you out of your comfort zone in the best way possible.


Happy spinning!


Why You Shouldn’t Skip Girls Night


“Pussy Power”

“The Future Is Female”

All of these things have been the forefront of our lives this past year. Now more than ever, women are coming together to take a stand. Even if you can’t participate on the larger scale, you can make an effort in your everyday life. That starts with making time for your girlfriends. Why is it so important?


To Bond
There’s nothing like girl time. It’s such an accepting feeling when you’re venting about a personal matter only to have your friends share advice because they’ve gone through the same thing. Sometimes, you need perspective and friends can provide that for us.


To Escape
Life can get hectic. Between work, kids (if you have them), family, traveling, self care, etc…there’s little time to really let go and just have fun. Carving out time with our friends to just have fun can remove a huge weight off of your shoulders and let you feel free.


To Dance
Lets be honest, guys don’t have epic dance parties like we do. Just last weekend my roommate and I put on a mix of 90’s pop and danced around our living room singing our favorites from junior high school for 5 hours and it was one of the funnest days I’ve ever had. MAKE MORE TIME TO DANCE!


To Check-in
When you’re consumed with your own stuff, you tend to not have much space in your head to tackle other peoples stuff, no matter how important they are to you. Sometimes you need to set aside some time, even for a quick cup of coffee, to just check in and see what’s going on. If everyone’s ok. If THEY need anyone. If YOU need someone. And if not, it’s just coffee with a friend.


To Let Loose
Sometimes you just want to over indulge. Whether that be with pints of ice cream, pizzas with extra cheese or 5 bottles of champagne. Girlfriends will never judge, and they’ll for sure partake in the fun. So let loose, go crazy and plan that girls night!



Summer Love Stories

We’re suckers for a good love story. Sometimes they last forever, some just for a season. Here are some short but sweet summer romance stories that will make you wanna hit the beach in search of some sparks.



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Via Huffington Post

Not everyone’s “summer lovin” story will end as well as Sandy and Danny’s did in “Grease,” but our readers who submitted tales of their summer flings seem to have done pretty well for themselves. Guess seasonal romance really is a thing.

Read on for three true stories of summer romance!


“We didn’t stop talking from that moment on”

His name was, as I was concerned, Number Six. He always had a cigarette in hand and never shouted out his assigned number (which was, as you guessed it, six) during role-call, hence the group nickname for him. It was a free trip to Israel and the boy acted like it was a nuisance to be there, too cool for school. But, because of the asshole I was, I was determined to at least make him smile. I made sure to be last off the tour bus one day. He tried to let me go first but I insisted, “You don’t always have to be last off the bus, you know?” That was it. That was what made Number Six smile.

Of course I learned his actual name after that. We didn’t stop talking from that moment on. I was the girl who made Number Six talk. The two of us swam in the ocean, took long walks at night at the Kibbutzim and had our first kiss under a dome of constellations in the Negev desert. He was to stay in Israel while I went back to New York to go to school. He told me he loved me while we watched the sun set in Tel Aviv. If that isn’t a summer romance, I’m not sure what is.
— Robyn, 22, New York


“I convinced a bouncer to let me into a dance club even though I was underage. He and I dated for the summer”

I am now 40 but when I was 17 and had just moved to Boston, I convinced a bouncer to let me into a dance club even though I was under age. He and I dated for the summer but he was 25 and feared my jailbait status. We parted ways but remained friends. Twenty-one years later, after I was widowed and he was divorced, we started chatting on Facebook. Within months, I had moved from Austin, Texas with my two young children to Miami to be with him. That was two years ago and we’ve never been happier.
— Laura, 40, Texas


“He was such an “old school” gentleman”

My summer fling….We met on a bus.

A gorgeous man sitting near the back of the bus kept locking eyes with me as I tried to hide from him so he wouldn’t see my jogging pants and workout shirt. He told me I was beautiful before he jumped off at his stop. I thought that was it.

A few days later my friend who was with me on the bus came up to me holding a piece of paper with a name and number. She told me she literally ran into him at the train station, told him I have been kicking myself since that day for not jumping off the bus and he gave her his number to give to me.

The rest of the summer was like a dream! Never have I ever met a man that treated me so well… was so kind and caring. He was such an “old school” gentleman… walking on the side of the sidewalk with traffic, holding my hand as I walked down stairs, giving me his umbrella, walking me home even though he would miss his last train… I could go on.

Who knew men like that still existed!

I guess you can say this fling didn’t end after summer, we continued to talk years later and I just returned from a short visit. Let’s just say… nothing has changed! If only we didn’t live miles apart.

— Stephanie, 27, Toronto

Via Huffington Post

Love Sonnet 43

by Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being an ideal grace
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light
I love thee freely, as men strive for the right
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith
I love thee with the love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, I love thee with the breath
Smiles, tears, all of my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Why You Should Be Having Orgasms Everyday

Feeling stressed? Anxious? Need to fall asleep faster? All these things can be solved with the same all natural prescription.


That’s right, orgasms not only feel amazing, but they have a ton of health benefits.


1. They Relieve Stresss
When you orgasm, oxytocin (aka the pleasure hormone) is released into your brain. It stimulates feelings of warmth and relaxation. Research has found that when women experience an orgasm, the amygdala, the part of the brain associated with fear and anxiety, shows little to no activity. Also, this keeps your cortisol levels in check .


2. They Help You Sleep Better
Lets be honest here… would you rather take a sleeping pill or have a mind-blowing orgasm? Yeah, I thought so. When you orgasm, your brain releases serotonin which promotes more restful sleep. So get it on right before bed and drift off after the big-O. You’ll wonder why you havn’t been doing this every night!


3. They Help Alleviate Pain
When you orgasm, a rush of endorphins release into your body that produce euphoria and pleasure. “Endorphins block pain signals from reaching the nervous system and thus are critical to maintaining optimum health”, says Dr. Eva B. Cwynar, MD.


4. They Help Stimulate Your Brain
Researchers from Rutgers University asked women to masturbate while lying in an MRI machine. When the female reached orgasm, the machine’s measurements showed increased blood flow to all parts of her brain, therefore bettering brain activity. Sooooo basically orgasms make you smarter… sign us up!


5. They Can Keep You Looking Young
Having orgasms regularly can keep you looking 10 years younger, according to a survey by David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital. Orgasms increase estrogen levels in women which prevents excessive skin dryness. This also contributes to the post-sex glowing complexion.


5. You’ll Keep Your Vagina Healthy
When you orgasm, blood rushes into your genital tissue. That helps keep the tissue supple and healthy. Even better, having an orgasm while on your period can lower your risk of endometriosis.


6. They Could Help You Live Longer
A 1997 study in the British Medical Journal found that in 918 men between the ages of 45 and 59, the men who had two or more orgasms per week were half as likely to die from coronary heart disease than those who orgasmed less than once a month. For ladies, a long-term study from Stanford researchers examined the sex lives of couples living in California in 1941. Other researchers compared that original date with the death certificates of all of the women, 20 years later, and found that the women who orgasmed more frequently lived longer than those who weren’t getting off regularly. BOOM.



Sexy Cocktails To Make This Weekend

Happy Friday babes. We’re feeling inspired this weekend so we’re mixing up our usual wine filled Friday nights and opting for something a little stronger. Try these recipes to awaken your senses, and maybe make one for someone special…



The Last Gasp

Vodka, Rosé, watermelon, basil… this cocktail is decadent in in such a subtle way. Serve it in a gold-rimmed martini glass for some extra flare.





Blood Orange French 75

Champagne, gin, bitters and blood orange. This twist on a classic will awaken your palate and ignite your senses.



Grilled Pineapple Mojito

This cocktail screams summer. Fresh mint, grilled pineapple and the intoxicating smell of rum. You’ll wish you were sitting on a beach sipping this.





Old Fashioned

There’s something sexy about a classic drink. The bourbon, cherry, orange and bitters… it’s simple, strong and leaves you feeling warm and fuzzy inside.




Why You Should Say Yes To That Boudoir Photoshoot

Boudoir photoshoots are hot right now. And while stripping down for a camera can seem like the most intimidating thing in the world, it can feel so empowering.

Think of that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha tells the girls she’s having nude photos taken. Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda thought she was crazy, but she wanted to remember herself in the best shape of her life. She was proud of her body, as we all should be. In the end, she had a timeless piece of art that she will always be able to look back on.

Now, you don’t have to do a full-on nude photoshoot. Pick out sexy lingerie, or even just a cute bra and panty set. Whatever you feel your best in. You pick your location, whether it be in a field of flowers or a luxury hotel room. Even bring a close friend with you to help keep you motivated. It can be photos for yourself or a gift to your man. You know he’ll very much appreciate them! Either way, you’ll always have them to look back on to remind yourself of how sexy you are and how proud you are of your body.

So ladies, bring out your inner goddess and book that appointment. The adrenaline will get you through and you’ll feel like you can rule the world.




First Date

You know the feeling. The rush, the butterflies, the “will he kiss me” anticipation at end of the night. In my opinion, there’s nothing sexier than a first date. You’re both so interested, anxious. You can almost feel your heart beat out of your chest with excitement.

You’ve had this planned for days now, and it’s finally here. You’ve been stressing all day about what to wear, what to talk about. Those typical “first date jitters”. You decide on an outfit and now you’re just waiting for him. He picks you up and away you go. He walks you to the car and opens the door for you and all you’re thinking about is what a gentleman he is. How it feels so rare these days to meet a guy who is chivalrous. Then there’s the drive to dinner. You’re already in awe of the amazing restaurant choice, feeling like he wants to impress you from the start. How can that not make you feel special? The drive is anything but awkward too. Conversation is flowing and you’re flirting and smiling with those “getting to know you” giggles. It feels like high school all over again, because who really dates these days? It’s all about meeting someone out at the bars and exchanging text messages. Where you’re hooking up long before you’re going out on dates, when it used to be the other way around. This is such foreign territory but you’re trying to remember a simpler time when this is actually how people started relationships.

You get to the restaurant. You go inside and the host takes you to a dimly lit booth. Now you’re sitting across from each other, staring and smiling and you can tell you’re both already thinking about that kiss. “Get through dinner” you tell yourself, there’s plenty of time for that later. You both order drinks, you get a glass of wine to ease those butterflies that keep fluttering, even though you tell them to calm down. And away you go, with conversation and “getting to know you” questions. Deep into that foreign territory, and yet it feels so good. You order dinner, on his recommendation since he picked the restaurant. You share your equal love of food, and you’re both starving since neither of you ate all day out of nerves. You’re sitting there thinking of how nice it is to be out with a guy who is a foodie and wants to have a progressive dinner. To course it out and enjoy each other rather than power through to the main course. He’s totally your style. The waitress eventually brings out dessert, and she most likely told the kitchen to decorate the plate with sauce shaped like a heart because of course she can’t keep her cool and asks if this is “date night”. You both turn the same shade of red as the raspberry sauce on the cheesecake. You look at each other with huge grins and acknowledge that it is indeed “date night”. In a weird way, that eases the tension because now you both know you’re on the same level. You’re both nervous/excited/anxious.

You leave the restaurant and head to the car. He walks you to the door and you wonder if he’ll kiss you now or wait until you get home. You don’t want him to wait, but he doesn’t make a move so you get in. The conversation is easier now that you’ve been together for a couple hours. You flirt, elude to hanging out again. Slyly throw in that you want him to take you for a ride on his motorcycle sometime. SO SEXY.

You get home and he seems nervous. All you can think about is that kiss. Will it happen? Will it be good? Will it make you like him more? Less? Who knows. You get out and head for your door, and it feels like the longest walk ever. You fiddle with your keys and he goes in for a hug, but that’s not what you wanted. So you invite him in to hang out for a bit. It is only 9:30, the night is young. Maybe sitting and talking more will lead to that kiss. 45 minutes of conversation, sexy eyes and inching closer and closer and he finally leans in. Realizing you’re both talked out, and you both want this. Any it’s everything you were craving. Slow but wanting. Soft but intense. Before you know it, it’s midnight and you’ve been kissing for hours. But you don’t let him stay. Something tells you that this won’t be the last time you’re kissing this man. The way he’s looking at you, he feels it too. So you say goodnight, and kiss some more, and say goodnight again. When he finally leaves, all you can think about is kissing him again. Hoping it’s sooner rather than later.

To be continued…


Love Sonnets: XI


I crave your mouth, your voice, your hair.
Silent and starving, I prowl through the streets.
Bread does not nourish me, dawn disrupts me, all day
I hunt for the liquid measure of your steps.

I hunger for your sleek laugh,
your hands the color of a savage harvest,
hunger for the pale stones of your fingernails,
I want to eat your skin like a whole almond.

I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body,
the sovereign nose of your arrogant face,
I want to eat the fleeting shade of your lashes,

and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight,
hunting for you, for your hot heart,
like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.

The One Night Stand…

You’ve been out all night, dancing with some gorgeous stranger you met at the bar. It’s hot, sweaty, flirtatious. The next thing you know, you’re kissing in a dark corner wondering if the night will end here or continue on into the morning. You don’t want the night to end here though. You want to keep kissing, touching, enjoying this moment. It’s as if he can read your mind, because before you know it,  you’re both pouring yourself into the Uber trying to behave in front of this stranger in the driver’s seat. Both impatiently waiting to get out of the car and continue what you’re doing. You go inside, clothes are flying. You barely make it to the bedroom and he starts slipping off your panties and going…you know where. And then your mind starts screaming at you…


So you make a hustled excuse to use the bathroom to freshen up, but promise him you’ll be right back. But wait, you’re at HIS PLACE. Men don’t have nice products that make you smell fresh and feminine. They make you smell like musk or All Spice. Not gonna work.


The lightbulb goes off. You find your clutch and instantly you thank the sex gods for reminding you to pack those handy little wipes. One quick refresher and you’re back in that bed enjoying every delicious moment of seduction without pause.

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